Author: Mary Bennett

Discover and discuss LGBTQ+ themed films

by Debra Sutherland

UCV GSA (Genders and Sexualities Alliance) Film Discussion Group

You are invited to our next Zoom meeting on the first Wednesday of each month at 7:15 pm on zoom

Register in advance for this meeting:
https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/v5Qqduqupj8iFyUp2_WeCrvz-_U2meqnFQ

After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the meeting.

Our UCV GSA met via Zoom earlier this month and enjoyed a lively, interesting and informative session reviewing and recommending wide-ranging films and Netflix series.  I have summarized the films mentioned with the hope that at least one of the series or films will intrigue or interest you, and that you will join us at our next meeting.

Please Like Me is a very clever, well-acted, highly-rated, award-winning Australian comedy/dramedy series that premiered on Netflix in 2013 and continued on for four seasons.   Please Like Me follows Josh, a twenty-something student who’s just been dumped by his girlfriend because he’s gay but hasn’t realized it until then. It is also about so much more than gay relationships – it is about family and friend relationships – and their relationships in turn, and mental health too (it’s not who you might think).  The series was created by stand-up comic Josh Thomas who has mined his own life experiences to full advantage.  Some GSA members were already enthusiastic, happy fans while some like me, had never heard of the show.  I am happy to report that I too am now an enthusiastic and happy fan and also that it is possible to binge watch the whole series in fairly brisk fashion as the number and length of the episodes are relatively short.  I laughed out loud a lot – up until the end of Season 3 anyway, but interestingly the appeal of the series waned for me in Season 4.  So I think Thomas was wise to end the series even as his most loyal and die-hard fans clamoured for more.

Happily, we fans of Please Like Me now have Season One of the new series Feel Good (Netflix, 2020) to enjoy.  It too is a very clever, well-acted, highly-rated, brisk semi-autobiographical comedy-drama set in Britain but featuring Canadian stand-up comic Mae Martin as she/they navigate her/their relationship with a previously straight British woman whose inability to come out of the closet causes deep pain; and then there are the complications of Mae’s addiction struggles.  Think it can’t possibly be funny, think again!  Here is just one of the many stellar reviews, this one from the New Zealand Herald:  “Feel Good’s six episodes (still the perfect series length) strike an extremely watchable balance between intensity and levity, the two often blurring together to create some sublime moments of television”.  Needless to say, I am really enjoying the series!

A film we discussed, that couldn’t possibly be more different than the Please Like Me and Feel Good series, is the Spanish film, Elisa & Marcela (2019), also available on Netflix. It is the fictionalized account of the fascinating and remarkable true story of a very determined Spanish lesbian couple, who, having been lovers for fifteen years, fooled (out of necessity) a priest into marrying them in 1901. The marriage was never annulled and thus remains in the record books as Spain’s first-ever same-sex marriage!  Written and directed by the famed and prolific Isabel Coixet and shot in black and white with some lovely and beautiful art house touches (a bit of a unfortunate flop though, when applied to the sex scenes) the film was nominated for several European awards. The critics, however, have not been kind to this movie and I reluctantly concur.  I did feel drawn in for the first third of the movie and then less so along the way (except for brief moments) although the ending did pull me back in as well.  I think the movie is worth a watch in spite of its flaws and shortcomings – I may even watch it again!  It is a tough and tender story that, as noted by one critic, “deserves an audience but also, and sadly, a story that deserves a stronger film”.

Other films were also briefly introduced and likely to come up for discussion at our upcoming meeting.  Unorthodox (2020) is a new Netflix four-part mini-series that follows Esty, a young woman who flees her marriage and her ultra-Orthodox Hasidic New York community for Berlin.  The series, based on Deborah Feldman’s 2012 memoir, then alternates between Esti’s new life in Berlin and the one she left behind, The reviews are very positive and I enjoyed part one and I look forward to watching the rest of the miniseries.

Pain and Glory (2019) is the latest film of highly acclaimed, award-winning and ultra-prolific (37 films) Spanish director and icon Pedro Almodovar. The film follows Salvador Mallo (Antonio Banderas), a successful director, now in physical decline, as he grapples with his past, and with loss, memory and meaning.  Almodovar has gone back and forth over whether or not Pain and Glory is autobiographical but the film is said to be immensely personal and also one of his best works.  Pain and Glory is reviewed very highly favourably by a host of critics and I am looking forward to seeing the film – it is not on Netflix as of yet, but likely can be found on a pay for viewing platform…even I may yet find it on itunes if I ever figure out my smart TV!

Professor Marsden and the Wonder Women (2017) is the story of psychologist Marston and his polyamourous relationship with his wife and their mistress, both of whom inspired his creation of the superheroine, Wonder Woman.  Sounds interesting to me.  It is available on itunes and again, I hope to access it soon!

Carrington (1995) is a biographical film, starring Emma Thompson and Jonathan Pryce, about the life of British painter Dora Carrington and her unusual relationship with writer Lytton Strachey and others in the Bloomsbury group.  A member also recommended the book Bloomsbury Pie by Regina Mahler that chronicles the story of the Bloomsbury boom.

Last Tango in Halifax is the much praised BBC One comedy-drama series, started in 2012 with Series 5 just airing this January – they must be doing a lot right!  The series is lauded for its focus on and treatment of its two septuagenarian lead characters as well as for the inclusion of LGBT themes.  The series is available through iplayer.

Finally, and notably, a few of us were also able to watch the movie Behind the Curtain: Todrick Hall (2017) on Netflix that the Out on Screen organization had set up on Netflix Party (some of us couldn’t quite figure out this digital extension but we watched anyway, without the sidebar chat).  It is a joyful, moving (there’s some tough stuff too) and inspiring documentary of an amazing, multi-talented and creative young queer black artist as he launches his first full scale original musical stage tour “Straight Outta Oz”.  He had already made a well earned big name for himself as a Youtube artist and American Idol contestant, and he is now a Broadway star as well!

Hope to see you at our next Zoom meeting, first Wednesday at 7:15!

Zoom Practice now monthly

For over 6 months, we hosted this every Thursday at 2 pm.

Now we’re doing monthly on the first Tuesday at 4 pm.

Mary coaches the group through basic zoom protocol and possibilities.

If people are interested in learning about hosting or co-hosting, we can spend some time on that as well.

We start with a check-in to see where people are at and go from there. We try to make sure everyone learns at least one of the things on their list.

Join zoom with link ucv.im/zoom

 

Zoom practice and etiquette

Here’s some great advice for being on a zoom call from UU minister Rev. Sarah Skochko https://sarahskochko.com/

She’s the minister at the UU Church of Eugene, Oregon.

Check in every Thursday at 2pm for zoom practice.

Topics covered: mute on/off; video on/off; change name; chat (via text) to an individual or everyone; raising hand; thumbs up/clapping icons. A great way to get comfortable outside of a regular meeting or gathering.

Hosting a zoom video conference?

Mary also offers a one-hour session for people who will be hosting zoom calls with some more tips and tricks. Send a note and she’ll set up a time and invite others.

 

Your GSA invites you to a Netflix party – Thursday April 16 7 pm

Netflix Watch Party: ‘Behind The Curtain: Todrick Hall’

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt6171960/

Several of us (Debra,Kiersten and Mary) on the UCV Genders and Sexualities Alliance will be online watching this film.

We may be able to have the chat just for our group and friends.

Here’s the information from the Vancouver Queer Film Festival.

You’re invited to the Vancouver Queer Film Festival’s first online Watch Party, happening Thursday, April 16th at 7PM. Connect with us, and each other as we come together to watch ‘Behind The Curtain: Todrick Hall’.

This feature-length documentary screened at VQFF 2017, and we’re so excited to experience it again with you (from the safety of our homes). ‘Behind the Curtain: Todrick Hall’ is a fiercely fun and inspiring behind the scenes look into Hall’s journey producing music, a visual album and musical stage tour in a heart-stopping production schedule of mere months.

To join our Watch Party, follow the link below to get your free ticket. We’ll send you a link to the screening by 6:50 pm on Thursday, April 16th. We’re using the newly created ‘Netflix Party’ Google Chrome extension that allows users to synchronize viewing with friends and chat while watching together. You will need a Netflix account and the Google Chrome browser to watch with us and join the conversation.

Get your FREE ticket

VQFF Artistic Director, Anoushka Ratnarajah will be online to take note of any questions you have during the screening, and hosting a follow up Q&A live on our Instagram the following day, Friday April 17th at 6 PM.

Walk with me by Kathy Sayers

by Kathy Sayers

For all of us these are strange, strange times. All of us are trying to find ways to navigate them, to ease our anxiety and to stay connected. We are becoming familiar with technological means of connecting like Zoom calls and experimenting with ways to make them more personal and less business-like. I think many of us have rediscovered the pleasure of long phone conversations over texts (so convenient but a tad unsatisfying).

Our routines are changing too.  Daily walks or bike rides have become the highlight of our schedules. Who knew that there are such great free yoga videos online and that qigong is 10 times easier to learn than tai chi? Who knew you can download hundreds of books for free? Who knew how creative and funny folks could be during a crisis?

Early on in our new reality we began experimenting with ways to feel more in the presence of our friends. Weeks ago, Mary Lage and I mused that we missed the opportunity to walk together, made impossible now by distance. She is on the Sunshine Coast in isolation with her daughter’s family. I am ensconced in a high rise in Kerrisdale. “What if we took a virtual walk,” I asked? After all when you go for a walk you are side-by-side, not actually looking at each other.

It works like this: each of us walks in our own neighbourhood and we chat by phone as we walk. We have wonderful ranging conversations like we used to have when we saw each other. She also describes the experience she’s seeing: “I’ve made it to the beach now and the water is utterly beautiful today, like glass.” I describe the cherry trees coming into bloom and two lone dandelions that I would never notice in summer but look beautiful when there are no other flowers on a lawn.

To our surprise it feels like we’ve had an actual outing together. I’ve virtual walked with a friend in Toronto, on Vancouver Island and even in Kerrisdale so we can maintain social distance. She walks on the Arbutus Corridor; I walk on the tree-lined back streets.

Unitarians Mary Bennett, Cathy Sevcik and John Smith and I each took a stroll together this week. Right now I have five virtual walking partners every week. One partner was pretty dubious until he tried it. Now he prompts me every week to take a stroll.

Virtual walking has made my life feel less cramped in these crazy times. And it’s deepened my relationships with friends I connect with less often than I’d like.

Do you want to know a secret? A tip from Christian

Many UCV’ers are concerned about privacy and security of information right now. Did you know we have PIPA officers? To find out what PIPA is and who to contact click https://safenote.co/r/5e91f46cd4dd05@11333110

Christian (one of our techie support folk) recommends https://safenote.co/ if you need to send someone confidential information such as a password or private zoom link.

The program allows you to decide how long the message will be available, either by length of time (default is 1 day) or number of clicks (default is 1)

I chose: Message Lifetime 7 days or 25 clicks

Since the answer isn’t really a secret, you can just scroll down after listening to the Beatles sing, “Do you want to know a secret?) Listening is optional, it would just get you in the mood.

 

Not so secret!

Here’s the secret you should get from the above note.

PIPA stands for Personal Information Protection Act. Every organization must have at least one PIPA officer. UCV’s PIPA officers are our Congregational Administrator Aurora ca@vancouverunitarians.ca and Board Member Huguette huguettesansonet@aol.com

All Ages Book and Video Sharing Online Group

by Paula Vander

Did your heart do a little gasp when you heard the libraries were closed? Did the locked door of your own library, with all those lonely books behind it, convince you that we were really and truly locked down?

If you are someone who loves to read, you will enjoy the book sharing zoom meetings. You will find your peeps.

Everyone shares a bit about the books they are reading and sometimes films they have seen on Netflix too. This way you can start to assemble a good dream list of books to take out when we finally, finally can get back into our libraries!


from Mary: Bruce and Phaedra are regulars, as are Paula and myself. We welcome others of all ages.

Bruce helped Phaedra put her book review on a video.

If you love kids and young adult books, please have one ready to share according to who’s on the call.

You can also ask some questions or for recommendations.

This past week I asked for some discussion related to Jane Eyre so I’m ready to watch the National Theatre broadcast. I got a great context-setting and additional reading (or re-reading) of various 19th century novels. I’ve now posted a request for Middlemarch on my Buy Nothing Group. Confession: Although I owned a copy and it was required reading, I no longer have it and (oops) never did finish reading it.

 

Victory Garden opportunities and labyrinth help needed

Victory Gardens at UCV?

Some of us who have gardened at UCV in the past are taking a year off. If you live close to UCV or drive and would like to have regular visits to our beautiful grounds, here are some opportunities:
Mairy Beam & Mary Bennett hope to get back to gardening next year, but if you’d like to plant and harvest this year, we’d love you to take advantage of the veggie and herb garden we’ve been building up. It’s a bit shady but great for greens. There are some herbs (sage, lavender, thyme) and lots of kale and garlic and undoubtedly a few other things there too. Contact Mary to discuss.

Labyrinth – oh my!

From spring to summer, Mary has often spent 2 or more visits or an hour or more joyfully weeding and planting and tending the garden path labyrinth. We have a soaker hose once it’s needed and many plants are established, but it needs regular trimming and weeding. I’ve wished for some time that we had a labyrinth team–so now it’s really needed.

Family veggie plots

There are three 38″ square plots that have been used by families. If you are able to plant and harvest one or more of these, contact Mary Bennett.

Health and Safety measures:

If you are using UCV tools (including the combination lock) please disinfect before and after use. Patti is putting disinfectant into the shed for you.
If you’re there during the day, office staff and caretakers know the combination or ask Mary or Patti in advance.
Use gloves. Keep at least 6′ away from others.

Patti says: garden but stay safe.

Hope someone volunteers to care for the labyrinth. Outdoors is a safe place to be if you need to get out of the house especially that big empty space at the church. Perhaps there are those that will welcome this opportunity.
Warmest and bestest from Patti

Check-in Questions – we use some of these questions for Tuesday nights

Daily Quarantine Questions

  1. What am I GRATEFUL for today?
  2. Who am I CHECKING IN ON or CONNECTING WITH today?
  3. What expectations of “normal” am I LETTING GO OF today?
  4. How am I GETTING OUTSIDE today?
  5. How am I MOVING MY BODY today?
  6. What BEAUTY am I either creating, cultivating, or inviting in today?

From: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/six_daily_questions_to_ask_yourself_in_quarantine

I was glad to discover this site https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/

and the monthly calendar: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/images/uploads/April_2020_Happiness_Calendar.pdf

A few new questions for you to consider:

  1. What are you doing that you’d like to continue doing?
  2. What are you not doing that you’d like to continue not doing?
  3. What’s a silver lining?
  4. What’s a guilty pleasure you’ve indulged in?

UK Unitarians Annual Conference Closing Worship 10am (Pacific) Thursday April 9

Updated April 8 5:00 pm

Thursday Closing Worship  (10 am Pacific time)
Closing Worship with Bob Janis-Dillon, Kate McKenna & Anna Jarvis

https://www.facebook.com/events/519402752283784/
Zoom Link: https://zoom.us/j/875690252
Meeting ID: 875 690 252
Password: 925567

Updated April 8 by Mary Bennett

It was fun to join the “evening” social on the first day of the UK Unitarians’ 3-day conference (noon our time).

We were placed into randomly generated groups of 5 and for 3 rounds, given a different discussion question: check-in; if you were leading a workshop, what would it be; and sharing a favorite object.

A couple of people online remembered me from my time visiting representing CUC; and a few others knew my name from facebook activity. It was great to see video of some names I knew but had never seen before. Who knew that Aleks was a young woman for instance?

TODAY: Join UK Unitarians for their key-note talk at the annual conference. I’ll be there. I hope this will be recorded so more people can watch.

Wednesday 10:45 am in Vancouver

UK TIME: 6.45 – 8.15 pm – Keynote: The Revolution Will Be Spiritual

We are delighted to welcome Alastair McIntosh as Being Together’s keynote speaker, on ‘The Revolution Will Be Spiritual’. Alastair is an independent writer, broadcaster, speaker and activist who is involved in a wide range of contemporary issues, from land reform, globalization and nonviolence to psychology, spirituality and ecology. His forthcoming book ‘Riders on the Storm’ explores the science, psychology and spirituality of climate change, and of the need to build soul and meaning in these troubled times. He is a Quaker, and is an Honorary Senior Research Fellow and Glasgow University. Please join the Zoom call at 6.45pm for a 7pm start. Zoom Link.

Some links to connect with UK Unitarians

Website: https://www.unitarian.org.uk/

Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/UnitariansUK

Unitarian Earth Spirit Network facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/370009573040955

THE INQUIRER

The Inquirer is the longest-lived non-conformist paper. Its first issue was published on 9 July 1842.

Website: www.inquirer.org.uk http://www.inquirer.org.uk/pages/

Most recent two editions available at no charge. (This is how I learned of the GA on Zoom)

Samples

 

Being Together UK General Assembly: Lots more: Tuesday to Thursday, April 7-9, 2020

https://www.unitarian.org.uk/beingtogether?fbclid=IwAR2v-0kTiDYADhhEtDP2oCIkc7beYbyOvB74aVXyh981DwTZ5SMZCw-APC4

Depending on your own sleep patterns and interests, you might find it helpful to use this converter to figure out Vancouver time.

https://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/converter.html

https://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/converter.html?iso=20200406T200000&p1=136&p2=256